Can You and Your Ex Get Back Together

Can You and Your Ex Get Back Together

If you want to get back together with your ex, you have to do some soul searching. You must be totally honest with yourself.  You will need to decide if you and your ex get back together it will truly make you happy, and you won't land up the same road that caused the breakup in the first place.  It is always easy after having a breakup to only think of the happy times.  It is vital for you to try to be completely objective and think of both good and bad times.

In reality, there are a few relationships that are unworthy of saving. If you and your ex spent more time fighting than you probably did doing something good and fun, then perhaps you should think about moving on. if they were physically or verbally abusive, it wasn't a healthy relationship.  If they were mentally unstable, you probably are better off without them.  If your relationship overall was a healthy one, and they weren't abusive, and they were of sound mind, the following should help you get your ex back.

Pestering and pushing your ex is not a good method.  If you try to constantly get in touch with your ex; whether its by phone, email, text message, or stalking them you're going to do more damage than good.  They are going to look at  this as a sign of desperation.  This might actually push them further away than bring them closer to you.

Do not argue, beg, or plead with your ex about your past relationship. It is easy whenever you and your mind are all alone.  Your mind exhibits all sorts of “wrongs” that you may have done.  Even when your ex separated with you they may have gave you with reasons why.  Now, you are probably beating your self up over them.  You probably wish you had never done those things.  The past will be the past.  This is the present.

If you get it in your mind that this relationship is currently over.  You simply can't go back in time, though you wish you could.  Focus on what is going on now.  The single thing worse than obsessively getting in touch with your ex is to beg or plead with them.  Make promises how you will change, etc...This won't help you and your ex reconcile at all.

If you back off, let them have some time, and live your life, you will be doing yourself a big favor in more ways than one.  You will most probably become more desirable to your ex, because you are allowing them to think about you and miss you.  You'll also be helping yourself to live a more happy, more fulfilling life too.